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More Presence with Horses: Tips and Tools for Being in the Moment

More Presence with Horses: Tips and Tools for Being in the Moment

Do you sometimes feel like you’re not really “there”? Not really present? Your horse will be the first to notice. Today, I want to share with you an enlightening realization and some concrete tools that you can use to arrive in the moment, both mentally and physically.

What is presence? To me, presence means that we are truly “there” with our mind, body, and senses, fully aware of where our feet are touching the ground, able to respond (instead of react), and able to “go with the flow.”

A typical human mindset is that we need to somehow create presence (I wrote about this recently). However, our body and senses are always present – it’s just that sometimes we don’t fully perceive it because our mind is caught up in the past or future. So, it’s less about creating presence where there was none before, and more about removing what prevents us from feeling it. Isn’t that relieving? I thought so. – Everything is already there, we just need to see it.

So, how can we do this concretely?

Here are three techniques and ideas that help me let go of thoughts and be more present in the moment, whether I’m with my horse or not:

1. Feel the ground beneath your feet

It may sound too simple, but it’s very effective: Tune into your feet. Right now. How does the contact with the ground feel? How does it feel to be supported by the ground? Are you allowing yourself to fully step and evenly distribute your weight with each step? You can also take this idea with you, for example, on a walk with your horse. You can even write the quote “Be where your feet are” by Scott M. O’Neill on a piece of paper and hang it somewhere you often look.

2. Breathe

In yoga, breath is considered the bridge between the mind and body, and for good reason. It is one of the best entry points to our nervous system. Here’s a concrete exercise you can try: Take a breath and feel it filling your upper body, perhaps even down to your pelvis. Hold your breath for as long as it feels comfortable. Slowly exhale until your lungs are empty. Repeat 3-5 times.

If you like, place 1-2 hands on your upper body while doing this exercise.

3. Close your eyes and feel

Close your eyes and focus on one of your senses. For example, you can place your hands on your horse’s fur and practice “seeing” with your hands what you feel. You can take an essential oil or something else with a pleasant scent in your hand and concentrate only on smelling it. Or you can focus solely on hearing, for example, by sitting next to the horses while they eat hay, which I like to do. It often helps to set a timer for, say, 5 minutes, so that you can truly let go during that time.

These are things I do to bring my mind back to my feet. I’d love to hear how they work for you, too. I always enjoy hearing from you.

…And if you come home at the end of the day and realize with a tinge of sadness that you’ve been running around all day and somehow didn’t feel so present, take a moment and mentally relive the best moments of the day. The conscious experience can also be practiced and trained like a muscle, even afterwards. Each time you focus on what you want, you help your brain understand that it’s important to you, making it easier to perceive it next time.

If you would like support with this, for example, because a certain issue keeps coming up for you, feel free to reach out. Thoughts that continue to pull us out of a sense of presence often carry a message from our subconscious. (More information on this in the recent blog article). It can be helpful to take a closer look with the help of someone with a neutral perspective.

Strengthening the Connection with your Horse: How to Break Free from Inner Obstacles and Fears and Embrace the Present Moment

Strengthening the Connection with your Horse: How to Break Free from Inner Obstacles and Fears and Embrace the Present Moment

“Why can’t it just be easy between me and my horse?” – Have you ever asked yourself that too? Why don’t you constantly feel this deep connection between you, when it is actually always there (which it is)? The answer to these questions leads us to ourselves – and to a fulfilled life on all levels.

The search for a truly fine connection between horse and human is a very central theme in the horse world. After all, isn’t it the core of all riding teachings and for many of us the reason why we are drawn to horses? Because this topic is so fundamental, we feel like we have to do a lot to somehow constantly establish this connection. In reality, it is always there and tangible. Our horses are actually good at making it experiential, we just aren’t always open to it. But why is that?

You are not alone with this topic and these questions. Because we are all humans. And for most people, the answer to the question of why we don’t always feel connected to our horses lies in our culture: Because we are rarely truly present. And because we often don’t even realize it.

Our thoughts are so rarely in the present moment because we are constantly busy analyzing the past and planning (or fearing) the future. They are guided by the image we have of ourselves and our place in the world, which we usually put together early in our lives. Typically, there are three central themes:

  • Feared inadequacies: We are afraid of not being enough, believe that we have to do more.
  • Uncertainty: We don’t feel safe (e.g. with the horse, in the environment, overall in our own skin), and may try to control it as much as possible to create a sense of safety.
  • Feared scarcity: We are afraid that we don’t have enough of something (e.g. time, money)

… And of course, we are always particularly preoccupied when we have specifically noticed that something is not how we want it to be or that something is the way we don’t want it to be.

All these thoughts cause stress and thereby diminish our ability to keep our eyes open (literally and metaphorically) and be present. Our nervous system is in fight-or-flight mode and simply doesn’t have time to take in more information – it is too preoccupied with problem-solving or, ultimately, survival.

To explain this, I need to go into a bit more detail: We are controlled by our central nervous system (brain and spinal cord nerves), whose most important job is to keep us alive. For this, it is important that it pays close attention and quickly recognizes dangers. Our nervous system is therefore always looking for threats, it has a fine sensor for potential danger. It searches for signs of danger both in our body and in the immediate and distant environment. So there is always something to discover. And: Stress is addictive, meaning that, roughly simplified: The more danger the nervous system is used to, the more it sees.

To be able to assess what could be dangerous to us, our nervous system refers to the things it has experienced in the past and classified as threatening. It definitely does not want to repeat these things and, in general, it prefers to stick to what it knows and what we have at least survived so far. The experiences that are most strongly weighed are those directly connected to our identity, i.e. those that were either immediately life-threatening (more often the minority) or those that were deemed “important” and contributed to our identity formation and shaping of our self and world views. And these fundamental memories are usually rooted in our childhood.

Therefore, what preoccupies us usually does not originate from the current moment or from what we fear in the present. It only superficially comes from the conversation with the stable owner earlier and the question of whether we should have reacted differently when she asked us if we agreed with the new hay. Instead, it comes from a feeling that the conversation has triggered and that we know from a different context. Something that affects us more deeply and therefore moves us. Perhaps the fear of being rejected or not being enough.

They also don’t really come from our fear of cantering in the riding lesson later, but from, for example, a fear of not having control that we know well from another time. – The connections and stories are very individual. The topic is not: In the end, it always comes down to the fears and concerns described above, sometimes consciously, but mostly subconsciously.

It’s not about what happens, but about what it subconsciously reminds us of.

Where do these fears come from? Especially in the early years of life (it is said, until around the 7th or 8th birthday), our subconscious mind is wide open and very receptive to information that gives us a sense of who we are and what place we have in the world. Fundamental information, right? Information that can determine life and death, especially for a child. A child left alone cannot survive well in nature – our nervous system knows this very well and relentlessly seeks connection with adults who hopefully know what to do.

We gain experiences that we, with our childlike consciousness (lots of emotions, little overview), do not always know how to categorize and process correctly. All these experiences leave an emotional signature. And some of them also leave a signature of helplessness, frustration, anger, shame, sadness, etc., which can ultimately be traced back to fear. And yes, even if they weren’t actually super dramatic experiences. To quote Gabor Maté, the Canadian physician and trauma researcher: “Trauma, derived from the Greek word for ‘wound’, is not what happens to you, but what happens in you as a result.” And no matter what happened at some point – the nervous system remembers it as clearly as if it were yesterday… or rather: now.

Today, these categorizations really could use an update, because we don’t just want to survive, but also live a contented, fulfilled life, right? One in which we feel free to decide what we want to do, who we want to be, and: one of voluntary and loving connection with our environment (for example, with our horses).

For the realization of this, our nervous system is not a good advisor, it is simply too much of a survival nerd. Instead, it is important to understand what is going on and to take our nervous system by the hand with the help of our conscious thinking.

So if you don’t just want to live on autopilot, if you want to have a chance to come into the present moment even though you have things you could think about (which is always the case), if you are used to constantly being lost in thoughts, it requires your active intervention. A decision from you to interrupt these patterns.

If we don’t consciously steer against it, we are constantly running on autopilot.

While a part of our “mind” separates us from our horses (the amygdala and the limbic system – always for our own good, as it believes), we need the part that can consciously think and make decisions (the prefrontal cortex) to come back to feeling and the present moment: It requires the conscious decision to engage in activities such as yoga, meditation, breathing exercises, mindfulness practices, tapping, the decision to seek support. This is not always easy, especially when we are caught up in our nervous system automatisms. Because stress is more addictive than cigarettes and an activated nervous system also has blinders on: it does not easily deviate from what it knows and is familiar with.

Therefore, it makes sense to make the conscious decision easier, i.e. to take the time in a more relaxed, present state to anticipate what stresses us, when we are stressed, and how we can help ourselves out of it, so that it becomes easier (e.g. by already scheduling the yoga class at the beginning of the week in our calendar). Even more meaningful and sustainable is understanding and changing the programming of our nervous system in the long term.

It already helps us enormously to know what experiences our nervous system is exactly referring to – which beliefs and convictions are behind our actions. Because then we can not only recognize them faster, integrate them, and take them by the hand, but even “update” them, i.e. permanently take away their emotional charge. By recognizing the stories they contain, feeling what they do to us – and then realizing that they are not facts. That what we fear the most is not inseparably attached to us, but that we are primarily very skilled at accepting the rhymes that our childlike nervous system once made as the truth.

This way, we can recognize who we are beyond these beliefs and convictions. How much freer we can live when we bring all fears and concerns out of their dark corner into the light, recognize what they want to tell us, and realize that we are not them. Instead, we are the ones who created them and kept them alive. And from this position, we can now also decide to distance ourselves from them, see and try alternatives, and eventually even let go of the old connections completely. So we can categorize what we couldn’t as a child in retrospect and understand it from our adult perspective, and ultimately detach ourselves from it.

We all have the ability to leave behind the emotional charge of our old stories and live more freely.

We all have this invaluable ability to do all of this. We can all find a freer, more fulfilling life and in doing so, we will also find ourselves closer to our horses with each step in this direction. We can better understand what they need from us. We can communicate with them better. And they will also meet us differently.

However, this is not always easy, as we are very used to being the person we know ourselves to be. And then there is this nervous system that generally finds change difficult – like anything it has never experienced before – and sometimes, especially in moments when we are not paying attention, wants to lead us back into the old patterns again and again.

But when our soul eventually longs for an update of our identity, because it has something else in mind for this life than constantly being stuck in the old stories and limiting itself, it can be very helpful to seek support from outside. To find out what is blocking the way, why it is there, and what it needs to clear the way again. And to repeatedly take our nervous system by the hand and step by step find our way back to the person we are when we don’t have to be anything and can be everything – our authentic self. For a fulfilled life and more joy and connection with our horses.

Our horses don’t have these issues to the same extent. They are almost always in the present moment. They often know more precisely than we do what is standing in our way and patiently wait on the other side until we also recognize it. And until then, they give us hints from time to time about where our boundaries lie.

So, if our moments of presence with our horses eventually multiply and extend, we will rediscover the feeling of connection and freedom that attracted so many of us to horses. The key to this lies in remembering our authentic self and the ability to truly engage with the present moment.

It is actually always there. And even though all of this may sound difficult – you are much closer than you probably think.

How to reconnect with yourself and your presence.

You feel like exploring this? Then feel free to get in touch. We can discuss without any obligation where you are, what you desire, and how I can help you help yourself through coaching.

A smaller but also good step in this direction is always having your own good yoga practice, because in the end, yoga aims for this coming back to oneself. If you are looking for inspiration, take a look at my online yoga courses for riders (in German) or my ongoing English-language yoga offering specifically for horse people: The Body, Mind & Horses Yoga Club.

How a guilty conscience affects the horse-human relationship

How a guilty conscience affects the horse-human relationship

Have you ever felt guilty towards your horse or another animal? Oh yes, haven’t we all. But what does that do to the human-animal relationship? Today, I have some interesting and perhaps relieving thoughts for you.

Recently, I had an intriguing conversation about this very topic, as well as animal communication, which is always guaranteed to lead to interesting discussions. ?

I was getting a body treatment. So, picture this: I’m lying relaxed on the massage table, chatting about what I do.

The therapist says, “Ah, you do animal communication. Fascinating! I would love to know what my cat is thinking….”

“I get it. What do you think she’s thinking?”

“Well, I have a feeling that she had a real problem when I brought in a second cat…. but now they seem to get along well, I think… well, I hope they do… Oh, I still feel so guilty about it! The first few weeks were really difficult for her, I think…”

I asked a few more questions to make my therapist aware of the basis for her feelings, both back then and now.

“Well,” I pointed out, “I don’t know your cat. But very often, our feelings about our animals are pretty spot-on. That’s why, based on what you’re telling me about her behavior, I think it’s quite likely that the transition was tough for your cat. And that she’s feeling better now. However, from my experience, I can also say that your cat definitely senses that you still feel guilty. And today, that probably creates more of a barrier between you than the fact that there was this situation back then.”

Phew, understandable, right? We’ve all felt guilty towards our animals at some point… because we did something differently that we would later evaluate as better, because we couldn’t live up to our standards regarding the animal, because we can’t always avoid suffering. What we often don’t consider is that when we have a guilty conscience and act upon it, our animals notice (just like our children, by the way).

Because what we “give” to the animal out of a guilty conscience doesn’t feel like giving – it feels like taking.

We do what we do, not primarily to do something good for the other person or the animal, but in truth to appease our own guilty conscience. So, we try to get the good feeling from our animals. It’s about us, not about them. (I know, this realization can also create guilt – don’t worry, we’ve all been there and done that before. It’s just good to be aware of it, so that we can potentially make different decisions next time.)

Applied to horses, simplified: When I give my horse an extra carrot because I won’t be able to come tomorrow, it feels different for the horse than if I give it the carrot because I know it enjoys carrots and I’m happy to see it enjoy them. In the first scenario, I am acting out of fear (fear that I don’t have enough time for my horse, that I can’t meet its needs, etc.), whereas in the second scenario, I am acting out of love. And yes, you might say, “Of course, I also act out of love!” But your horse won’t be able to feel it if fear is overshadowing it. And anyone who has experienced fear can imagine that fear has a tendency to overshadow everything whenever it is present.

“Oh, wow… You mean I’m keeping this old situation alive by continuing to think about it and feeling bad as a result?”

“Exactly.”

“Wow. I haven’t seen it that way before…” – Pause. “How relieving it is to realize that I’m not doing my cat any favors by feeling bad… instead, both of us will feel better if I let go of it.”

“Wonderful!”

Oh, that was nice! Just the realization itself has already made her feel better. And yes, since I didn’t “speak” to the animal, I can’t say for sure if I was right. But if my therapist can now approach her cat with more unfiltered love, if she can give it the extra cuddles because she wants to and not because she feels the need to make up for something… that’s a great outcome, isn’t it? It will certainly bring them closer together.

In fact, this is often what happens in animal communication: The human comes with a specific question, to which they already have a feeling. This feeling is often correct (if it’s a genuine feeling and not the ego wanting to hear something specific), and simply receiving validation through an external source or “channel” helps both the human and the animal a lot. When we have a close bond with our animals, we are connected with them as well. Communication is always happening, even beyond the visible level. We’re just not always aware of the different levels, so we often can’t exactly determine whether the feeling we have is coming from us or from the animal.

And the thing with the guilty conscience is actually very common. As humans, we have the ability to put ourselves in situations even when they’re not happening at the moment. This is great when we want to plan or anticipate dangers (although we often exaggerate that too). But when we get “stuck” in past situations in this way, it simply blocks us from being present and moving forward. It prevents us from living and giving freely – and our animals and loved ones notice that.

On the other hand, our animals always live in the present moment: When they are feeling bad, they are feeling bad. When the bad feeling stops, they feel better. They don’t then tell their friends how bad they felt, call their mother again to tell her about this crisis, question what they could have done differently, or blame themselves or others and keep the feeling alive with all of that. No. The bad feeling is gone, so this and even the thought of it no longer play a role in their present or future lives.

We can learn so much from that, can’t we? And until then, understand that a guilty conscience has no place in the human-animal connection (just like in other relationships) and that we can confidently leave it behind (just for that reason).

I thought this message might help you too, since we’re all humans. ?

In that sense, feel the ground beneath your feet, acknowledge what is happening right now, and let go of what was, what happened yesterday, and last year. You have the opportunity NOW to give yourself and your animal a good feeling. Use it. ?

And if you ever need help letting go of the feeling of guilt or anything else that keeps showing up and bothering you… let me know. This oftentimes has its roots in other places and times in our lives, and it takes some discovery and rewiring to really get over it. This is why I offer coaching for horsepeople – finding and releasing the deeply-rooted stuff (thoughts, emotions, convictions) is the incredibly freeing for the whole horse-human relationship system and I’m glad to assist you here. Just shoot me an email to get started.

There’s nothing wrong with you. – Developing my Coaching Offer and Your Potential

There’s nothing wrong with you. – Developing my Coaching Offer and Your Potential

Today we’re talking about the development of my coaching offer, which focuses on horse-human interaction and changing emotional blocks as well as subconscious programming. I believe that every person has the potential to bring about positive changes within themselves and for themselves, and that solving blockages and fears ultimately leads to a fulfilling horse-human relationship.

Newsletter, Sept 8, 2023

Hello dear horse person,

How long have we known each other? I know that some of my readers have been reading for ages (5 years? 10? … 15!?) and that’s pretty amazing for me (thank you for your loyalty, wow!). Others are brand new and I think that’s wonderful too (hi!).

Because while in the first few years it was mainly about horse training here, my topics and work have now expanded a lot.

Today I often find that it’s not so easy to explain what I actually do… “Yoga for riders” is a correct, good, and relatively clear answer. “Animal communication” somehow too. “Horse training” – that’s also somehow true, but I’ve been struggling with the idea of training for a while now… it’s more of an “exercise offer to feel good with the horse”…? But that’s a bit long.

“And what is this coaching for horse people?” – well, that’s a very good question and one that I answer differently today than I did a while ago… In fact, my offer here has steadily evolved with my own development (or should I say: my ongoing awakening?) over the past few years.

Today, my coaching offer consists of two major building blocks:

1st Building Block: Harmonization of the horse-human interaction

This is the older part, it’s about communication and understanding the horse as well as the horse-human relationship:

Why does the horse behave like this? How can we help the horse **better understand what we want, physically execute it, and motivate it to do it happily? What can we do (technically and in terms of body language) to make ourselves more understandable to the horse and thus make the horse feel better? So in the end, it’s very much about the horse.

2nd Building Block: Harmonization within your being

Over the past few years, I have come to understand more and more how incredible the potential in us humans is. And how life-changing it can be to explore it. For achieving all the goals we wish for ourselves with the horse and of course for everything else we imagine for a fulfilled life. In my work, I now go far beyond what is happening on the surface. We consider and harmonize your physical, emotional, and mental state – in the situation at hand and far, far, far beyond.

I use elements of yoga, various techniques for dissolving emotional blockages (I am also trained in tapping acupuncture therapy) and for connecting body and mind, and we explore and change your subconscious programming using language – because in the end, our subconscious programming takes over control of everything else. In other words: nothing influences our perception of time with the horse as much as our subconscious programming, our beliefs, our self- and world-view. – By the way, this ultimately has to do with yoga too, but that’s another story.

So here are the questions:

Is there a blockage in you that the horse/situation is pointing out? What subconscious programming controls your behavior and interpretation of the situation? How can you position yourself differently within you so that the issue (with the horse or in another area of life) can be resolved?

In other words:

What does it take for you to really feel better (more confident, present, free, relaxed)? And how can you ultimately get better and clearer in touch with the horse when you are authentic with each other? What can your relationship be like when you are both really authentic with each other?

So the question is not only what we consciously and unconsciously send out (on a visible and palpable level) and how that influences our interaction with our horse. But also how this one thing that is getting in our way with our horse can help us to get to the bottom of our subconscious fears and limitations, dissolve them, and then live more satisfied, relaxed, and above all: free. Because I know: When we come back to ourselves, that is, in the end: really to ourselves, we don’t need to solve most of the problems with our horse, they just dissolve.

If you’re reading this and thinking, “yeah, yeah, sounds nice, but I don’t think it’ll do me any good, I’m ______ and therefore different from others,” let me tell you: I’m sure it will. Maybe not now, maybe not with me, but even YOU have the potential to change something if you want to. Because one of the biggest realizations I had over the past few years is: there’s nothing wrong with me. There’s nothing wrong with you. Not with anyone. We only think that because we compare ourselves to others and realize that we’re different. But that’s exactly right!

The thing is: we all live our lives, think, feel, and act in a way that our image of ourselves and our place in the world demands, and ultimately: the framework that our subconscious fears set for us. Against this background, we all act exactly right at all times because: in tune with the world as we perceive it. And as long as we perceive the world this way, we will always act this way and experience similar things again and again – whether we consciously want to or not.

Nice and good, I thought for a long time, only it’s a shame if we get a negative view of the world early on and carry it with us for a lifetime.

Today I know: we don’t depend on having an optimal childhood, having perfect genes, or someone coming to heal us… everything we need is already within us. Always. And the framework in which we allow ourselves to move is always and unlimitedly expandable. All this holding back, this “I would like to, but I can’t, I’m too old/dumb/lazy/not ambitious/poor/incapable/shy/…” all this latent discomfort, dissatisfaction, not really feeling comfortable in our own skin, not acting authentically, and not knowing what we want and what not (– actually everything that stands in our way, on the horse and beyond, and everything that “triggers” us and therefore annoys us) is an expression of our subconscious fears and programming. They are not always on the surface, it often takes some investigation, but then they can be found in every human being. And they are changeable. At any time. Also for you. And by yourself. Yes, it takes awareness, often some help, and usually some practice. But our “world” can be changed at any time, and if we recognize that, we can open it up in a direction that we like. 🙂

So you are already complete and always right, just as you are.

And you can want what you want. Feel what you feel. And become what you want to be when you grow up. You are already grown up. You are so powerful. You have so (!) much potential. No matter who you think you are. No matter what happened yesterday. No matter what your inner critic wants to make you believe. And no matter what others say.

And that’s what I convey nowadays. That’s the lever I like to use most to support people sustainably, ultimately in being themselves. Feeling good. Going their own way without regretting not having done something later.

And the magic:

So much of what gets in our way when dealing with horses has ultimately been passed down to us as an answer to a completely different question, usually: How can I make a horse obedient? So, all of this didn’t really come from within ourselves.

What can go right when we approach the horse not from an inherited idea, but with our true intention (perhaps simply the desire for felt connection), when we truly show ourselves and fully engage in the connection, instead of mainly wanting to create the look of it?

From my perspective, this is where the biggest leverage for a fulfilling horse-human relationship lies.

I no longer believe in shortcuts, in simple and universally applicable solutions for all horse-human pairs, I am no longer so interested in superficial answers. This actually makes it intense – for me and for my clients. But the potential we can move through this is SO immense that every growth pain pays off a hundredfold. In this respect, the feeling of happiness that I experience in my coaching sessions is even stronger than ever before and, man, is it fulfilling.

So, if you’re at a point where you’re stuck, running into the same or a similar problem (with your horse or in other areas of your life), if you want to make a change but don’t quite dare, reach out to me. I am happy to be your cheerleader, your clarity-finder, your problem-solving helper, your potential guide and companion from fear to more freedom and fulfillment… And I also know a little bit about horse behavior and communication. 🙂

I hope this outlines a bit of what you can currently expect from me. Let’s just talk about where you stand and what I can do for you – short-term and long-term. And I still have a few spots left for my summer offer (179 euros for a trial session). It would be a shame if you missed out because you didn’t dare. What can one session bring? Quite a lot! Clarity, a change of perspective, big aha moments, solutions, and – a first big step.

And otherwise: Virtually take a fat dose of whatever you need from the “note” below and bring it to your horse. Bet it’ll like it?!

No matter where you are and what you’re doing: Take care,

Daniela

What can you do to bring more harmony to the horse world?

What can you do to bring more harmony to the horse world?

In my newsletter this week, I wrote about the horse world and what we as individual horse people can do to positively influence it and create a “new normal”.

The horse world is a very heterogeneous place. The love for horses that unites us all is lived very differently. There are so many different views and “bubbles”, from people who don’t (or no longer) ride because it seems wrong to them, to people who, within their means, wishes, and beliefs, seek the most horse-friendly way to go about anything they do with their horses, and then there are images from the international competitive field that testify to a grotesque imbalance between the drive for success and animal welfare.

And somewhere in the middle, there’s you and I. “Regular” horse people who are again and again confronted with the question of what we can do best to somehow come together again and, above all, to make our human world a more horse-friendly place. I have thought about this a lot and shared my thoughts with my newsletter subscribers this week, which I would also like to share here. Because it is so valuable for each of us to think about this, form an opinion, and then get started, and from my point of view, the best way to do this is by creating a new normal. Here is the text:

“I am writing to you today because, perhaps like you, I am seeing a lot of discussion about the problems in equestrian sports and the desire to change tournament guidelines in favor of animal welfare, especially towards the FEI (Fédération Équestre Internationale, the international governing body of equestrian sports), in my social media feeds. Meaning: many unpleasant images, many exclamation marks, and long, heated comment discussions.

I totally understand the reason for the agitation. Of course, I also want better conditions for the horses. Totally. And I also believe that awareness and education are essential to effect change. However, if it turns into a “fight,” it loses its constructiveness in my view. Our energy is simply not well placed here.

Why? What we really need is a “New Normal” in equestrian sports. Images of horse-human interactions that are harmonious (even at second glance) that we see in the stables, in sports, in the media, and even in stock photography, and that gradually become “normal” for the majority of riders and non-riders alike. Just as the current image eventually became so ingrained that it is considered “normal” by many. I believe this is necessary so that we can return to a healthy way of dealing with ourselves, each other, the horse, and the sport.

Every bit of energy we spend blaming and insulting others does not directly contribute to this positive change – it only fuels more friction. And yes, change sometimes arises from friction, but I believe that particularly in the case of horses, which are so sensitive to our energy and the peace we bring or don’t bring, additional friction is simply not constructive.

So, what can we do to create this “New Normal” and contribute to positive change?

1. Help educate. Let’s talk and educate each other about training methods, equipment, and what we believe is horse-friendly and why. We can assume that everyone is doing their best with their individual means and background (including ourselves). If we acknowledge and consider this, we are more likely to have constructive conversations that actually serve our horses in the end.

2. Create and spread positive images. Of course, we can treat our own horses the way we would like to see all horses treated. And we can celebrate those who are already doing this, and share their images in all directions to inspire others. We can inspire each other and strengthen our community. What comes to mind first for you? Do that!

3. The miracle cure: Find peace within yourself. I want to remind you that the FEI is an organization founded, operated, and supported by people, humans like you and me. We live in a world where most people carry a world of inner conflicts, contradictions, fears, worries, and stress. This leads us to sometimes put ourselves above others (people, animals, or parts of ourselves) to feel better. Or we put pressure on ourselves and our animals to achieve our goals. Or we simply don’t feel (or don’t want to feel) how the people and animals around us (including ourselves) are doing. And whether we like it or not, we all have an impact on this system.

Every day, we all make decisions in different areas and, most importantly, in our relationships (with other people, animals, and ourselves) about what kind of world we want to live in. It may sound abstract or a bit hippie-like, but we ultimately create our world. It’s about how we treat others, and as a basis for this, it’s about how we treat ourselves. In other words: As long as we “ride” ourselves with a sharp bit, we can only contribute to a world where people and horses live in harmony to a limited extent.

Your energy enters the stable before you do. So, do what it takes to be at peace with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Integrate the parts of yourself that haven’t been heard much and may need healing. Be honest with yourself. And by doing so, you can help others around you to be honest with themselves and others, and to have a positive impact in their own environment.

This is the way to truly spread love and peace throughout the world. There is nothing stronger you can do to contribute to a more positive horse world. So instead of using our energy to fight against what we see as wrong, let’s use our energy to create something that we believe is good and right. Every day, in everything we do. Each one of us has an impact on the whole.

Please never underestimate your ability to change the day of a stranger, the mood in a room, the world with a single genuine smile.

In this spirit, take care and look forward to the “new normal” that we are building every day.

See you soon, Daniela”

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How Yoga can Change your Riding: A Personal Story and a New Offering for Riders

How Yoga can Change your Riding: A Personal Story and a New Offering for Riders

Yoga can not only strengthen and relax our body, but also improve our life. Especially for horse people, yoga can be a valuable addition to riding and working with horses. As a longtime horse trainer and yoga teacher, I know the positive effects of yoga on riding. In this article I want to share my story and my newest offer for horse people like you.

Why Yoga for Riders?

When I first sat on a horse at the age of 5, I was thrilled. I loved the connection to this beautiful animal and the feeling of freedom I found while riding. Everything was easy and playful. However, as I grew older, more issues came up that tarnished my riding experience. In my teenage years, I felt quite unathletic and inflexible, the reason being a classical one: my perfomance in school sports. What we did and were graded for there just wasn’t my thing, and I kept receiving the message, one way or another: “Sorry, you’re just not that athletic.”

At 16, I spent seven months on a ranch in Oklahoma and spent even more time in western saddles than before… and eventually sat on horseback like a cowboy. One of the less elegant kind – with rather round shoulders and what you could call a chair seat. As I increasingly found work as a horse trainer and riding instructor because I seemed to have a natural connection to the animals and could handle difficult horses well, a kind of “riding shame” arose: I felt that I wasn’t sitting on the horse as well as I would have liked to in my role as an instructor and trainer.

Later, when I started working in an office in addition to my work as a with horses, I began to have increasing problems with my shoulders and neck. I often felt stressed and also had to realize that I had very little body awareness. I observed these issues more or less consciously over several years. On some level, I also knew that I had to change something to improve my riding.

I was fortunate to have met American horseman Mark Rashid in 2009, relatively early in my career as a horse trainer. I learned as much as I could from him and soon began to integrate his ideas more and more into my work. His approach of seeing horsemanship as a philosophy and also integrating breath and energy work into riding and horse training fascinated me, and I increasingly worked on these concepts with my students.

And so it was also a student who introduced me to yoga at the age of 20. I had actually thought that I was more of a hands-on Pilates type, but I tried to be curious and open to new experiences. I was surprised at how quickly I noticed first successes with yoga – and on how many different levels: I developed a stronger body awareness, became more flexible, could concentrate better again, and I became more relaxed. It seemed as if yoga was literally making me better at everything – magical. And of course, this had a direct and holistic impact on my riding and time with my horse.

Why was I able to stick with it? I think it’s because I had expertly taught yoga classes that touched, moved, and encouraged me in different ways. I had regular appointments and later could also practice yoga via DVD and online and thus was always able to integrate yoga into my life. And I continually found yoga teachers with inspiring themes that helped me discover more and more connections between horsemanship and yoga philosophy and really recognize the deeper connection. Because: It’s all one, sometimes we just need the right starting point to recognize that.

The Transformation

Yoga helped me make my body more flexible and agile. I found significantly more stability, mobility, and ease in the saddle, and a new inner softness for the connection with my horses.

My body awareness improved immensely. I was able to control myself much more sensibly, use my body more consciously, and contract and relax its parts as needed. I could detect and correct imbalances and asymmetries more quickly before being alerted to them from the outside or watching myself in the mirror.

I was better able to respond to the horse’s movements, perceived its subtle signals to me much more consciously. I began to feel the horses better and was able to respond more directly to their feedback, which of course led to freer and more contented horses and a deeper connection in ground and saddle work.

I learned to use my breathing more consciously and use it to resonate with the horse and shape our contact further.

I was increasingly able to react less reflexively and more consciously. This made me feel more in control of my own body and therefore more secure in any situation.

And, of course: my shoulder and neck pain disappeared.

My new yoga offer for equestrians

I was so enthusiastic about the positive effects of yoga on my riding that I knew I had to go deeper. So, I completed a yoga teacher training. However, during this training, it became clear to me that this was only the tip of the iceberg. Many other advanced courses, training modules, and workshops followed, reading countless books, learning from many great teachers around the world… and it continues to this day. I love to learn, to delve deeper into yoga and its connection to our contact with horses and to develop it further with my students.

I stumbled upon my initial offer specifically for equestrians by chance: Customers and equestrians in my area approached me, saying that I always seem so calm and clear, and asked if I could teach them yoga too. I started with individual yoga classes and workshops, and during the Corona period, we moved to Zoom. From there, my online yoga courses for equestrians developed, which have now been completed by several hundred riders. And the feedback is overwhelmingly positive!

When I thought about what I could do to further develop my offer, I remembered a statement that I hear from many course participants over and over again: “During our course, I was doing so well – but afterwards, I just couldn’t keep it up…”

It was this feedback and ultimately my own story, the reasons why I was able to stick with it myself, that led me to develop my new yoga offer for horse people: The

BODY, MIND & Horses Yoga Club

The BODY, MIND & HORSES Yoga Club is a yoga subscription model specifically designed for riders – by the way, the first of its kind that I have discovered worldwide.

Every week, there are new contents and yoga classes tailored to the needs of horse riders. A growing library of videos and audios of varying lengths is available anytime, enabling yoga to be integrated into your own schedule.

The BMH Yoga Club is at least as diverse as my own yoga classes back then, so that participants can benefit just as much – which is highly motivating. In addition to yoga asanas, we use breathing exercises, meditation, energy work, nervous system and mindset exercises, and much more to achieve results on many levels.

Through the club aspect, there is exchange and connection with like-minded female and male riders who offer support and inspiration. We meet monthly for live Zoom yoga classes, which deepen this connection even further.

And: The whole thing is in English. It is simply my goal to reach, support and connect with as many riders and their horses as possible, and English is simply the best way to do that. I have been living part of my life in English for over 20 years and simply love the language. Therefore, I am thrilled that it can now become a larger part of my work aswell.

The BODY, MIND & HORSES Yoga Club is suitable for all riders who want to improve their riding and deepen their connection to their horse. It is the result of my experience and knowledge as a yoga teacher, coach and horse trainer.

I hope that my story and the new offer of the BODY, MIND & HORSES Yoga Club will help even more horse people experience the positive effects of yoga on their riding and their relationship with their horse, and that they and their horses can benefit from it.

For a limited time only: Do you want to be a founding member?

Do you want to be a part of something exciting from the very beginning and benefit from unique advantages? The club is still in its early stages and I would like to shape and develop it together with a small group of dedicated horse people. Do you want to be a part of it? If you register as a “founding member” of the club, you will be there from the start, you can dive straight into the weekly new yoga videos and you will receive approximately 50% discount on the club fee – and therefore guaranteed the lowest price the membership will ever be available for. And: Of course, this price will remain the same for the entire duration of your membership, even if prices increase from October onwards.

This offer is only valid until August 10. Please feel free to contact me via email if you would like to participate, and I will send you the link to the offer.

Friendships with horses!?

Friendships with horses!?

Would you say that you have a friendship with your horse? And: would your horse say that too? Behavioral science is much further here than most horse owners and we can learn a lot from it. About misunderstandings and myths, due questions and opportunities around the relationship with our horse.

Imagine you have a good friend named Tina. You haven’t seen Tina in a while and invite her over for coffee and cake. Tina brings her newborn baby with her and hands it over carefully: “Would you like to hold her?” Of course you do. While the coffee is brewing, you scoot closely together on your kitchen bench, you look at each other and start bringing each other up to date on your life and all mutual subjects. Then you get up to get the homemade apple pie you made for the occasion. Tina is thrilled, loves it and asks you for the recipe. You spend a wonderful afternoon together and blissfully part ways in the evening with the good feeling that you have further strengthened your friendship.

What do you do to strengthen the bond with your horse?

Identifying as “horse people” we like to consider our horses our friends, too. What do you do to strengthen the bond with your horse? Being the humans that we are, we of course tend to do the very same things: We go up to the horse and pet it. If we want to be extra friendly, we may feed one or two extra treats or we prepare an extra delicious bowl of Sunday mash. We are looking to find the horse’s gaze and make eye contact. We touch it some more. We speak to it in a friendly manner. We “give him a day off” from time to time. We clean it extra thoroughly and maybe even try out this new massage technique that we have read about. We are working through our list of friendly acts as we know them. The thing is: horses are not humans. For horses, these gestures, with luck, are decently nice, with less luck, are uncomfortable and crowding. Because horses lead friendships very differently than humans.

Dr. Emily Kieson and Jessie Sams from the MiMer Center for horse-human education and research in Sweden have spent years researching how horses really feel in our care. What different types of training and handling feel like to them. And whether and how a friendship between horse and human can really be conducted – especially if other factors such as training and riding also play a role.

“Unlike dogs, we don’t usually think of horses primarily as companions, but rather as a partner or even ‘tool’ that we do something with: ‘What are you doing with your dog?’ hardly anyone would ask while the question ‘What are you doing with your horse?’ is perceived as normal”, says Kieson. And that’s the way it is: Most horses are “used” by us in a way – the focus is mostly on riding, training, the mutual tasks. The friendship that most riders would probably state that they’d want is welcome as a side effect but often has a stale aftertaste. Would Tina be your friend if the time you spent with one another are, in addition to many gestures that are not particularly meaningful to you (see above), primarily based on her telling you what to do? With your obedience (or let’s say: your “cooperativity”) being the condition for the “friendly” way of being around each other? If Tina were your boss, you might tolerate this as long as you are okay with quite traditional management techniques – but does Tina also become your friend acting this way …? And why should it be any different with horses?

It is time for us to learn to better interpret communication and attachment behavior, and to understand what role we want to play in our horses’ lives.

It is time for us to learn to better interpret communication and attachment behavior, and to understand what role we want to play in our horses’ lives. Fortunately, it is slowly seeping through in equestrian circles that we don’t have to be the horse’s “boss” in order to successfully handle them. However, as far as I know, hardly any rider knows that horses are completely oblivious to the hierarchical thinking that we put them under. Horses do not think in terms of dominance hierarchies or rank, there are no higher or lower ranked horses and there’s also no “boss” among them, to which everyone is subordinate. “Rather, herds of horses are a complex network of individuals and individually designed two-way relationships. In human care, rare resources also play a key role in observable behavior: space and food. There are horses that need more space around them than others – sometimes more than is available to them in total – and defend their space quite vehemently against most other horses. There are horses that are better at securing food and keeping others away from it. This creates behavior that may be interpreted as dominant. But it is not about hierarchies, not about the relationship of the horses to each other, not about character traits and about securing a status, but about current behavior and the scarce resource of feed, ” says Dr. Emily Kieson.
“Leaders among horses, for example in unknown situations or new resources, become leaders because other horses follow them, because enough other horses consider them to be a good leader in the respective situation – not because they previously positioned themselves as leaders to have.”

The stress that we observe in the herds does not arise because “horses just are like that”, but from human management in the past or present. I know – letting these ideas marinate and looking at the behavior of our horses under this new filter feels a bit like we are deliberately trying to break our heads from the inside. At least, that’s how I felt after decades of seeing horse behavior differently. But what opportunities does it offer to get to know the depths of horse behavior?

So how do horses develop friendships? The individual two-way relationships in the herds form through time spent together, mutual observation and consistency in behavior towards one another. Each horse is a little different in its communication and behavior, so no pair of horses is like the other. Horses usually communicate with each other through their entire bodies and are masters of strategic positioning. Friendly horses often like to stand close to one another and move together. The mutual grooming (allogrooming), which we often interpret as a clear sign of horse friendships, is not necessarily part of every friendship. In addition, it is often observed after stressful situations, so that it can be assumed that it is indeed a stress reduction behavior that occurs more frequently in managed environments than in the wild.

Positive contact between horses, that with horses is always mutual, takes place only on the basis of trust and a common communication. If one horse goes out of contact, it ends. “Horses perceive very precisely how the other horses behave in their environment at all times and react accordingly. This also creates trust – they pay attention to one another and respond to each other, ” Jessie Sams states. One-sided touches are usually negative and very short-term. Under natural circumstances, horses use them in short instances to set boundaries – usually the horses understand quickly and permanently. Stressed horses and, for example, early weaned horses show this aggressive behavior much more often. Also important to consider: A horse would never touch or hunt a friend in a negative way.

And even with the apple pie we couldn’t really score if Tina were a horse – at least not really. “While friend horses like to share their space with each other, sharing food does not play a role in bonding behavior,” Jessie Sams says. No wonder: In the world out of which our horses come, there is plenty of food. Of course horses like to eat, especially when they are hungry (which they are more often than we tend to give them credit for). But they don’t combine the eating experience with the “giving hand”. “As soon as the taste is gone, so is the association with the feeding hand,” says Kieson, describing her somewhat sobering insights. So our horses actually don’t like us anymore if we feed them more. Too bad, actually. Or: Good. Because that means that we do not need food in order to be perceived by our horses as better friends. We can simply meet them for what we are: other beings on (mostly) friendly missions.

But how friendly is this mission in the horses’ eyes? “The answer to this question is quite complex – it varies from human-horse pair to human-horse pair and certainly also over time and in different situations,” says Jessie Sams. Basically, it is good to even ask yourself this question. To answer it you need not only knowledge of horse behavior and communication, but also observations of the respective horse in different situations.

When we watch horses we usually like to label their behavior right away. We interpret what we see according to our own tendencies as well as cultural and personal learning experiences. Yet the more we dig into the drawers that are already created in our minds in order to make sense of what we see, the less open we are to alternative interpretations. And therefore: To what’s actually happening. So: Just take some time and watch your horse, without wanting to interpret the behavior right away. How does the horse behave in different situations? What does it look like when it is tense, how does the behavior change once it relaxes again? What about other horses? And here, it is actually very enriching if you do not try to answer this question by means of an alleged ranking, but rather simply observe the horse in interaction with other horses. You will probably find that your horse behaves very differently towards some horses than towards others. And that the context plays an important role. What suggests a friendship and what an antipathy? Horse behavior is very nuanced and looks a little different in every herd and on every horse.

The better we get at understanding the quiet language of our horse’s movement, the deeper the dialogue with our horse can get.

If we know and can classify the range of behavior of the horse and know our own individual horse well, it is easier to read its behavior towards us. The better we get at understanding the quiet language of our horse’s movement, the deeper the dialogue with our horse can get. If we assume that horses build bonds over a lot of time and shared space, synchronous movements and – at some point – shared experiences: How can we shape everyday life with the horse so that the bond can deepen? How can you allow some “friendship time” beyond riding, in which we can really collect “friendship points” with our horse?

For us riders, this usually requires no less than to rethink almost all of our behaviour and thoughts about our horse: If we really want to focus on friendship, we have to practice letting go of our goals (at least for the moment). Get away from the desire to manipulate the horse’s behavior in any way and achieve a certain result. To remember and, even more difficult, to be willing to accept it when the horse says “no”. Spending unplanned time together.

And we have to ask ourselves honestly whether the training as we are currently doing it promotes friendship or is contrary to it. “Every training is behavioral manipulation. But not every training feels the same for the horse,” Jessie Sams says. To dig deeper here, it not only makes sense to learn about stress behavior and the different forms of stress, but also to break down my training technique and understand: When do I work with negative and when with positive reinforcement, for instance? Are there any truly relaxed phases? Situations in which the horse can (co-)decide? Are there moments of defense, flight or freezing? How does my horse behave in training? What does it really like, what less? How do I behave in the horse’s eyes? Are our touches mutual and positive or consistently very one-sided? When does it really feel like “softness”, an inner harmony between horse and human? And at what instant do I end the training situation?

All these questions can bring us closer to our horse, step by step. The more we become aware of what we do with the the animal, how we spend our time together, what experiences it makes with us and the better we know our individual horse, the easier it is to develop our relationship positively. Not overnight, but in a slow, rewarding process. All of this takes courage. Courage to admit that we may presently rely more on techniques and aids than on trust in our horse and our relationship with it. Courage to experience that not everything works like in the movies from the very start, no matter how much we think we already know about horses. Courage to recognize that we have not always acted like a friend to our horse in the past. But it brings us closer to our goal of having a real friendship with our horse. And isn’t that what we all got into this for in the first place?

This article was originally published in German in the magazine “Feine Hilfen”, issue no. 43. For the German version see here.

Horses teach me how to see – Interview with Nahshon Cook

Horses teach me how to see – Interview with Nahshon Cook

Never heard of Nahshon Cook? Don’t worry. I felt the same way merely a few weeks ago. Until I heard a podcast interview with him and knew: I need to bring a little bit of this human into our German-speaking horse world. Cool enough, he was totally up for my interview. And my impression was confirmed: I have seldom met someone who can express the fine interplay between horse and human in such beautiful and wise words as Nahshon Cook can. Have fun! 

“What meets the eye is the last thing. Most people think it’s the first thing. But, what meets the eye is the last thing, for sure.

That said, I don’t like to make a practice of foreseeing the future too often. Instead, I just try to work with what is. I don’t really like to infer or speculate because I know enough to know what I don’t know, and there is still a lot that I don’t know. But, what I do know is that sometimes the lesson is in accepting that a horse is outside of my expectation of what I think he or she should be and that being enough.

For example: I have a horse, my young horse Remi, who is seven, who had really horrible trauma done to one of his ligaments in his back. He’s ridable, and I want to ride him, but he doesn’t want to be ridden and so I’m not going to. He’s cured. His body is good. But, mentally he’s not, and he may never be, and what do I do with that except understand that a healing can sometimes be very different than a cure.

So, the first part of it is just being open to whatever the answer may be outside of our desire of what we think it should be. The should is the expectation, and if we’re going in with an expectation, then we’re really not seeing with eyes that want to see what is to be seen.

And I hear what you’re saying, and I agree. I do know how to stay in that space. I live out of that space, and this is how: When I’m afraid, and doubts and negativity try to make me run away and hide from the world, I breathe as deeply as I’m able into my love for this life to be full of awareness and surrender so that I may have a clear enough mind to be present, a courageous enough heart to be vulnerable, and a simple enough faith to listen on purpose so that horses may continue to be my help along the way.

To keep it, you have to have the strength not to hold it, and allow it to come when you need it. If you’re always wanting what you had, you don’t get what you need. And each situation is so incredibly different because every horse guides us each in so many different ways.

Learning to trust this process is difficult. Most people want it so bad that they miss it. That’s where a lot of people have a lot of trouble: they want it so bad that they try too hard, instead of realizing that all they have to do is accept it. Help from horses isn’t something you go and get, it’s something you accept, and is only as real as we believe it to be.” 

– Nahshon Cook on his Facebook Page, March 7, 2021. 

If after reading this text you feel like Alexa Linton in her interview with Nahshon Cook in her Whole Horse Podcast (in which I also got to be a guest a while back) and Warwick Schiller in his Journey On Podcast and like me when I heard these interviews, your head is spinning a little bit now. You are fascinated, a little speechless and feel closer to a higher truth in a very pleasant way. 

Nahshon Cook is a horseman and poet from Colorado. His interview with Warwick Schiller recently brought him to new prominence: His texts, which he publishes mainly on Facebook, training reports and thoughts on life and the togetherness between horse and human, now reach and touch many people all over the world. 

To expose his work to an even broader audience, after I first heard of and from him in those podcasts, I wrote to him right away and asked for an interview. It is very lucky that he agreed right away – for me, but also for all of us. His answers not only help to better understand him, his view of life and his work, they also provide the same underlying tune of universal truths and a deep wisdom that touched me in the interviews. They get us from thinking to feeling – and that is exactly what so many of us need and where our horses can use us best.

How great would it be if we could take a lot more of this view of life and horses with us, when it became more normal for us to have our horses teach us how to feel and thus also a different view of life. In them we have such great teachers in our lives – and yet sometimes it helps to look through someone else’s eyes to see it. 

Ladies and gentleman, Nahshon Cook. 

Interview mit Nahshon Cook

Nahshon, what makes a great horse person? 

-For me, horsemanship means listening to horses, and working with them (as best we can) out of a space from which they feel safe enough to have a voice to teach us how they learn. 

Which do you think is the most common mistake that humans make with horses? 

-Not understanding that the energy of unconditional love creates trust. 

What is the first thing you do when you meet a new horse; given that you have the time and space to do your thing? 

-I offer them a treat, if I can. Food helps horses feel safe, and then I let them sniff me. After that, I ask them how I can help them.

What is it that fascinates you most about classical dressage and even the schools above the ground that you teach? 

-I fell in love with classical dressage after reading about how masters like Egon von Niendorff and Nuno Oliveria healed horses, whose bodies and minds were broken, with the movements and school figures. The ability to use classical dressage as a tool to heal horses is why I practice. For me, classical dressage is medicine. I’m not as good as they were, but I hope to be some day.

What is the most recent thing you learned (about horses or in general) that amazed you?

-That my practice and work with horses, and the love therein, would be so interesting to so many different types of people.

What do you do when you find yourself struggling (to be at your best) with a horse? 

-If they’re my personal horses, I won’t work them. I’ll hand walk them around the farm. If it’s a client’s horse, I do easy work. Maybe we’ll have an extra day of playing games, or a review of something super-easy for them… But, I won’t ride them. That said, and in all truth, I honestly don’t have many of those days. 

Also, my horses are on a pretty balanced training schedule. They do dressage from the ground twice a week, pedestal work once a week, we have a games day once a week, and they are ridden twice a week. So, there’s a lot of room in our schedule to relax, and decompress, have fun. The diversity helps all of us be at our best for each other. 

Which books do you recommend that may help horse people become better listeners and/or understanders of the horse?

-“Horse Brain Human Brain” By: Janet L. Jones is the most recent book that I’ve read and would suggest. I also enjoy Jutta Weimer’s book, “From Leading to Liberty” very much. 

Do you have a vision for the horse world? Is there anything that worries you?

-People treat their horses better when they have inner-peace. How we care for our horses is a reflection of hearts. I’d like to help more people find inner-peace. The practice of being open to there always being a better way is a wonderful tool to help us strive to be the best we can for our horses. 

“People treat their horses better when they have inner peace.”

I heard you say that you were led by a deep trust in life. How did you find that? 

-My mom taught me how to trust my heart. My heart taught me how to trust life. 

Do you have a personal practice of any kind, apart from your work with horses, that helps to Center you and “clear” your mind and heart? How do you relax? 

-Yes, I exercise a lot. I love to write. I love to read, and have super-nerdy conversations with my boyfriend. I like to hangout with me mom, and my siblings, and my nieces. I also enjoy just sitting in silence. It helps me feel safe, the way hugs from my great grandma made me feel safe when I was a little boy. 

Which would you say is the spiritual path that you are most drawn to?  

-That question made me think of this quote: ”Well, while I’m here I’ll do the work — and what’s the work? To ease the pain of living. Everything else, drunken dumbshow.” ― Allen Ginsberg.

I’d like to think that this is the spiritual path that I’m on.

Which convictions, behaviors or habits, that you have integrated within the last few years, have improved your life the most? 

-Well, to be quite honest, in the realm of my work, having my own space has been a wonderful thing. A horse’s opportunity to learn grows out of the care that they receive. I’m really happy that I have complete control over their routine, and that I can make life as positively predictable as possible for them. This has been key to the progress. 

Where and when do you feel most connected?

-When I am present. 

Who and what inspires you? 

-Beautiful art. Being with horses—they teach me how to see. 

What is your favorite word and why? 

-Love is my favorite word. Love is big. The world is small. 

What is your favorite view? 

-Onward and upward and ever-forward. 

Would you like to come to Germany again once it’s safe? 

-I’d love to come to Germany again. It’s really beautiful there.

Thank you very much for this Interview, Nahshon. I’m so looking forward to hearing more from you soon. 

If meanwhile you’d like to read more of and follow him, make sure you check out Nahshon Cooks Facebook Page.

“We have to learn to understand our horses.” – Interview with Mark Rashid

“We have to learn to understand our horses.” – Interview with Mark Rashid

– This is the English version of the interview. Für die deutsche Fassung, klicke hier. –

Mark Rashid is known for his books like “Considering the horse”, “A good horse is never a bad color” and “Finding the missed path”. Communicating with horses has been his passion for almost his entire life. Luckily, because his ideas and visions have been shaping the horse industry for years. I talked to him about what separates horses and humans and their way toward unity. Also he told me, how the martial art of Aikido helps him to connect better to his horses. Enjoy the interview!

Most horses want to learn and do what is asked. They simply want to be asked in a way they can understand. ”- Mark Rashid

Daniela Kämmerer (DK):That’s a well-known quote of yours. How do we ask horses in a way they can understand. Or: How can we help them develop an understanding for what we ask of them?

Mark Rashid: The single most important thing we can do to help horses understand what we ask is to keep then out of their sympathetic nervous system while working with them. The sympathetic system triggers instinctual behavior such as fight, flight or freeze. When the horse becomes frightened or doesn’t feel safe for whatever reason, they will be triggered into acting in an instinctual way, and thus will be unable to learn.

Keeping the stress level to a minimum while working with horses can keep them in their para-sympathetic system which allows them to rest, digest and relax. Horses are much more capable of taking in and understanding information when they are in a relaxed and curious state of mind, rather than a concerned or worried state of mind.

DK: It’s the same with us, isn’t it? And still, there are so many stressful situations between horses and humans. You’ve been positioning yourself for a long time against the more traditional, dominant ways of training and have instead established the term “passive leadership”. What do you mean by that and how does that affect our own interactions with the horse? ?

Mark Rashid: One of the biggest problems in the horse world is, that humans want to learn how to be the “alpha horse”. I’m pretty sure that any horse can look at a person and be like “pffftt…. that is not a horse”. Also, the concept of leadership among horses is commonly misunderstood. Eines der größten Probleme im Pferdebereich ist, dass die Menschen lernen wollen, wie sie das „Alpha-Pferd“ sein können. Ich bin mir ziemlich sicher, dass jedes Pferd sich einen Menschen angucken kann und weiß, „Pffft, das ist kein Pferd.“ Außerdem wird der Begriff der Führung unter Pferden oft falsch verstanden.

“The concept of leadership among horses is commonly misunderstood.” – Mark Rashid

Herds of horses are controlled by two different dynamics. The first is herd dynamics in an actual wild herd. The second is the dynamic among our domesticated horses. I have been fortunate enough to work with and observe wild horses all over the world, and the herd dynamics are always the same: all horses are generally very calm, except during the breeding season. Because the main goal of a herd of horses is, as with any other animal species, reproduction. In addition, it is important for the horses to remain calm as they do not want to attract the attention of predators. That means unnecessary expenditure of energy and unnecessary movement are largely avoided.

The dynamics within the herds also always look similar. For example, let’s say we have a herd of one stallion and nine mares. Among these mares, three are high-ranking, three are in the middle of the ranking and three are low-ranking. The three at the top are usually born into this position because their mother mares had the same role, as did their grandmothers, etc., and their daughters will eventually take up pretty much the same place in the herd. At the lower end of the hierarchy, exactly the same thing happens: there are the lower three, and their foals will be born again as the lower three, and so

Most movement occurs among the middle three mares. These are usually mares that are relatively new to the herd, who may have been brought in by a stallion who has since left the herd (normally she would then go with him, but not always), and who are therefore not permanent Have space. Sometimes, not very often, there are arguments among the mares, which the stallion ends when they degenerate.

That said, these real hierarchical wrangles and fights that we humans often talk about don’t exist in a natural herd. Everyone knows their place as they are usually born into it. And if somebody does fight it is during the breeding season and then it’s usually the stallion.

In the wild, there is no reason to argue about food or water, because there is always enough for everyone. Actually, there is no real reason to argue about anything.

But when we look at domesticated herds, things look very different. In the vast majority of cases, herd dynamics are no longer about reproduction but about food. Because here there is usually a shortage, for example because we only feed at certain times during the day. And here you can watch the fighting: At feeding times, the horses start to chase each other away.

However, the “hunter” horse is oftentimes not one that boasts with self-confidence. Rather, it is often precisely this horse that loses its head when the rest of the herd is led away, that is easily frightened when riding, etc. But what we see is: He chases the other horses away, so he must be the boss. When in reality the opposite is true.

A large part of horse training is based on a misunderstanding of herd dynamics: that you have to be the alpha horse that pushes all the others around. In reality, horses are very different. Their natural state is calm.

And because their brain is different from ours, they cannot understand certain concepts that we take for granted. One of them is the concept of “respect”. You often hear people say “The horse has to respect me”. When in reality, it doesn’t even have the part of our brain that makes this form of abstract thinking possible. Our horses just don’t understand the concept of “respect”. And so there are some things that we try to do in horse training that just don’t work. The better we understand how horses work, the more empathy we can develop for their nature, the easier it will be to deal with them.

My friend Dr Steven Peters always says: “We try to communicate with the horse frontal lobe to frontal lobe but the problem is that horses don’t have a frontal lobe .” The frontal lobe (or prefrontal cortex, note DK) is the part of our brain that makes us human, in which our language center sits and the ability to think abstractly, which has allowed us to travel to the moon, etc. Horses just don’t have this part. If we are not aware of this, problems quickly arise.

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DK: So we see the world through our human “filter” and miss certain parts. What do you think we can learn from the horses maybe also about communicating with each other?

Mark Rashid: I truly believe the amount of information horses have to offer humans is limitless and how much we learn depends on how open we stay.

DK: In your opinion, which qualities does a good horse person need? What „muscles“ do horse people need to strengthen to be a better person for my horse?

Mark Rashid: I’ve always been missing something in the horse world. The trainers I’ve watched often said some good things but I was missing something on a deeper level. This I found in Aikido. In Aikido, my teachers live what I have missed in many horse people. It is called “mizu no kokoro,” which means something like “a mind like still water”.

“In Aikido you are aiming for ‘a mind like still water”.”

When you look at a lake on a clear, early morning, you see a perfect reflection of the surroundings. If you throw small stones into the lake, they throw small waves and the picture becomes blurred. The goal of training in many Asian martial arts is to develop a mind that is like that calm, clear lake in the morning. Because when your mind is calm, you can see things for what they really are. Not blurry and not faded. When you understand how horses act as animals and you can actually see them as they are, with a calm mind, it helps communication immensely.

There are people who say “My horse bucked me off”, even though it is actually like this: Their horse bucked and they fell off. The horse did not “do” this to them. But we are often inclined to hold the horse responsible. The horse doesn’t do anything to us on purpose. Horses react directly to the way they are feeling at the moment, for them there is no separation between feeling and acting. If we ignore this, problems arise.

My martial arts training has significantly advanced my work with horses because it trains me to take on different perspectives. And of course it’s worth treating people the same way.

DK: So it’s not just about inner calm here but also about using our own unique “higher” capacities to think, right? To consciously expand (or fade out) the filter that we subconsciously use and use that ability to make deeper, more meaningful connections with other people and horses – instead of just reacting. How interesting, that you found this through martial arts, which many people tend to associate with Karate Kid and/or violence.

Mark Rashid: Yeah. In the end, both martial arts and horse training are all about inner peace. That is the goal. Translated, Aikido means “way of harmony”. Its founder, O Sensei, firmly believes that when we find inner peace, we can connect with the universe. In an attack, it’s not you is not being attacked but the universe. And the attacker is defeated before he even started because the universe is not defeatable. And that can be applied to any situation. It’s about staying calm and leaving your ego out of the picture.

“In martial arts aswell as in horse training, it’s all about inner peace.”

In relation to horses, it just helped me understand that sometimes horses just do what horses do without it having anything to do with me. I just take care of what I see in front of me and do it as calmly and “softly” as I can. And “as soft as I can” does not always mean “soft as I want to be” but it is as soft as I can be at the moment. When I am calm from within, I can turn the energy up or down as needed without my emotions getting involved.

DK: “Softness” ist ein weiterer Begriff, den du viel gebrauchst. Wie definierst du diesen?

Mark Rashid: To me, softness is an availability and effortlessness based on trust and understanding between us and our horses, or even us and other humans. Physical and/or emotional tension in us is one of the primary roadblocks that get in the way of that kind of softness being available in our horses. In fact, emotional tension almost always translates to physical tension, and any muscle we tighten when we are on the horse’s back will cause the horse to tighten the same muscle in their body. Because of that, developing softness in the horse will always boil down to both physical and emotional self control in the rider. 

DK: What gets in the way? For example, what role does our own muscular or emotional tension play in this?

Mark Rashid: Emotional tension almost always translates to physical tension, and any muscle we tighten when we are on the horse’s back will cause the horse to tighten the same muscle in their body. Because of that, developing softness in the horse will always boil down to both physical and emotional self control in the rider. 

Softness: An availability and effortlessness based on trust and understanding between us and our horses, or even us and other humans. The path towards softness leads through mindfulness as well as physical and emotional self control.  

DK: That makes sense – but it also sounds difficult. What are you doing to get yourself and your horse “softer”?

Mark Rashid: I try to work on being soft all the time, not just when I am with my horses. It is my belief that true softness isn’t something that can be turned on and off. You either carry it with you all the time or you don’t. Developing that kind of self-softness takes time, patience and practice, not just with horses and other people, but also with ourselves.

DK: How have the many years of Aikido practice and working with horses changed the way you treat your own body? Do you have the feeling that the decisions you make for yourself, even when far away from the horses, have an impact on how you deal with them?

Mark Rashid: The more strength you try to use in Aikido, the easier it is to either get hurt, or hurt someone else. As a result, the serious practitioner quickly learns how to move with or become part of any given technique rather than fight it. Once that skill starts to develop, it is pretty easy for most practitioners to transfer it over into everyday life.

As far as the choices I make in everyday life affecting my horsemanship… The way I see it there is no separation between the two, my everyday life and my horsemanship are the same thing. 

DK: That sounds very inspiring – and also efficient: You ‘just’ work on your horsemanship during every moment of your every day life. Still, is there anything you can do to prepare for your time with the horses? Any exercises or rituals?

Mark Rashid: When I first began training in Aikido, I found that anytime a test for promotions was coming up, I would always get very nervous before and during the test. Over time I began to realize my nervousness was coming from the fact that while I was learning the techniques, I wasn’t actually internalizing them. They weren’t part of me. I knew something had to change. My training needed to become part of who I was to the point where there was no separation between my training and the way I live my life. I needed to get serious about my training. So from then on, I began to train in every class I attended as if the class were a test. By the time my next test came around (and every test afterward) I felt confident enough in my skill and knowledge that I was able to easily moved through the tests without even the tiniest hint of nervousness.

This is how I practice my horsemanship. Each time I work with a horse I see it as me taking a test. To prepare for the test, I do everything in my life the same way that I want to be when I am around horses. Because of that, there is seldom any need for me to “set myself up right” before I go to my horse. It just happens.  

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DK: Let’s stay on subject of Aikido for a minute. You teach specific „Aikido for horsemen“ (Aibado) workshops. What similarities do you see between the two disciplines? Where do they intersect? And also, what’s more important: Technique or feel?

Mark Rashid: Well, both work better when you’re soft inside and out. Aikido techniques just work better when you are soft, and horses can somehow be moved without softness, but it just works better when you are soft.

“You can move horses without being soft, but it just works better if you are soft.” – Mark Rashid

Learning techniques is important, but not nearly as important as connecting. I’ve seen riders who haven’t learned any techniques but had a great connection with their horse and therefore it did everything for them. I’ve also seen riders who have ridden their entire lives and who pull, push and push on their horse. In Aikido, the techniques work either way, whether we hurt someone or not really depends on the softness. There are also such techniques where you end up looking in the same direction as your opponent, you see the world from their perspective. Aikido is primarily about finding a peaceful solution to a potentially dangerous situation. We often do the same thing when dealing with horses.

In Aikido I have observed that those who are really good also practice constantly. This is also a parallel to good horse people and riders.

DK: What does mindfulness have to do with all that?

Mark Rashid: Everything we’ve been discussing so far is all about being mindful. Mindfulness and self control. 

DK: … and what breathing?

Mark Rashid: Always.

DK: Are there any differences between young, inexperienced horses and older, “ridden” or incorrectly trained horses? How do I know if my horse is one of the few who don’t want to cooperate?

Mark Rashid: The main difference between young, raw horses and older ones who may have had unfortunate experiences is that young horses have very little history with people, so they are almost like a blank canvas. Horses that have been trained in an unfortunate way bring this story with them. That said, we often have to find a way to make them feel better about their past before we can start any form of training or retraining.

DK: In your book “Finding the missed path” you differentiate between “problem horses” and horses that behave in a problematic way. What do you mean by that?

Mark Rashid: Most horse training is about finding a problem that we can solve instead of finding something good and building on it. I think it’s important to widen our view a little. Of course it helps to understand how horses think. Otherwise, the first thing I do when a horse behaves in a problematic manner is to rule out physical causes: the body, the teeth, the hooves, the equipment, etc.

And then I find it important to understand that it’s not a dangerous horse that we’re dealing with but dangerous behaviour. Those are two different things. In all of my years of work, I may have seen a horse or two that were indeed dangerous horses. But I’ve seen a lot of dangerous behaviour.

The bird’s eye view is really worthwhile here: is it really the horse or is it the behaviour? Because if it’s just behaviour, you can deal with it. However, once we have put the “problem horse” label on a horse, it is very difficult to get it off. 

This is often seen in horses that have had a difficult history. People carry this story around with them, “he used to be mistreated”. But he is not being mistreated today and we have to work with him today. If we work with him as if he were an abused horse, he will always be an abused horse. But if you work with him the way you want to work with him, you will be able to work with him that way. Even if we mean it well, it is always important to look at the situation from a distance.

Your story with your horse starts today. The history he brings is not part of your story. Because he doesn’t care about it, I think. We think all these thoughts, make up all these stories while the horse just thinks like, “Man, I wish I’d felt better.” When horses are not doing well, they just want to feel better. If we help them here, they will feel better and be better. Horses are like water, they always take the path of least resistance. When they don’t feel good, they just want to feel better and at some point they do indeed feel better.

When we don’t feel good, we feel “… really not good!” And then we have to tell someone about how unwell we feel. And then we might call our mom and tell her we’re not feeling well, we might join a group to discuss the problem and two years later we might still feel no better … Horses are not like that. When they’re not doing well, they just want to feel better. And when they get better, they feel better again. It’s good if we just do ourselves and the horse a favor and treat them the way we’d like them to feel, and see from there. It’s actually pretty simple.

DK: What role does the right choice of tools play? 

Mark Rashid: The tools I use are usually limited to a saddle, bridle, halter, leadrope and from time to time a pair of driving lines. Over the years I have found one or more of these tools will allow me to communicate the ideas I’m hoping to get across in most situations with most horses. 

DK: And what would recommend to get less dependent on them?

Mark Rashid: I think most people would be surprised at just how much they could accomplish using almost nothing. The best horse training tool people already possess is their mind and body. If they could learn how to control those two things, actual “physical” tools become less important.

I think most people would be surprised at just how much they could accomplish using almost nothing.” – Mark Rashid

DK: In conclusion: What usually is it that most gets in the way between horse and rider? Is there anything that all us riders all need to change, like across the board?

Mark Rashid: Yeah, we’re doing too much. Too much help, too much pressure, too much leg, too much movement in the saddle. The horse has to compensate for all of this somehow, which makes learning difficult for him. Many riders use five aids to turn their horse when they just have to ask the horse to turn.

No matter where in the world I teach: One of the first things I practice with almost all riders is to do less. And you almost always immediately see a positive change in the horse.

As riders, we consistently do too much.

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DK: Wow. Why do you think this “too much” is so widespread?

Mark Rashid: That’s how we learn. I’ve spoken to very reputable coaches about why they do what they do and the answer sounded like something out of a textbook. And when I’ve asked them what they do when all of this doesn’t work, they often say, “Well, then you have to do more of it.” Get louder, get bigger, get stronger. That’s how they’ve learned it.

And as long as what they’re doing is working well, few people feel the need to change anything. But I love getting better and better, so I keep practicing. My big goal is to have to apologize for as few things as possible at the end of life.

DK: What would you recommend to a well-meaning horse owner to find his or her way in the jungle of different horse trainers, ideas and methods?

Mark Rashid: I would like to use an analogy here. Let’s say we have a large block of wood. And we want to shape a globe out of it. So we’d probably knock off the corners first. We then changed the shape of the wood but also created new corners. So we hit these corners off again, again with the result that we have more corners than before. Every time we knock off the corners, we create new work for ourselves. The good thing about it, however, is that we’re slowly getting closer to our goal and we’re getting better and better at chopping wood.

We are all in the process somewhere. My recommendation is to start looking. When you feel like you are exactly where you want to be: Great. If you want to change something and get better: Search. What you are looking for doesn’t have to be found in the horse world. You can find it in archery, couple dance, yoga, or, like me, in martial arts. It can be anything that somehow brings body and mind together.

Find the principles that feel right to you and start acting on them. Then everything will be a lot easier. It’s not really about the techniques, it’s about finding and applying the right principles. And be honest with yourself and your horse.

“It’s not really about the techniques, it’s about finding and applying the right principles.”

If you take this into account, everything will gradually become clearer and you will continue to learn.

DK: What was the last thing you learned about horse-human communication, that really surprised you?

Mark Rashid: I don’t know if I’d say it surprised me, but the last thing I learned about horses that I found extremely beneficial when it comes to horse-human communication is horse brain chemistry and function from Dr. Steven Peters, author of the book, “Evidence Based Horsemanship.”   

DK: What is your favorite “word” in either human language or in communication with horses?

Mark Rashid: My favorite word is “Hmmm.” It’s an involuntary response I have when I see either a horse or a horse and human do something I wasn’t expecting.  

DK: Is there anything else you’d like to add?

Mark Rashid: Just thank you for thinking of me for your interview.

DK: How can we find you or learn more about your work?

Mark Rashid: We have a website, www.markrashid.com, and wel also have a Facebook page „Considering The Horse, Mark Rashid“ as well as an online classroom through Facebook: „Considering the Horse, Mark Rashid Classroom“.

Mark, thank you so much for this inspiring interview.

How yoga can make you a better rider

How yoga can make you a better rider

What is this “yoga thing” and how can it work so extensively?

Yoga is good for riders. This rumor has been spreading slowly. But why exactly is that and how does yoga help to ensure a correct, balanced seat in the saddle, maybe even making us better people for our horses overall? Daniela Kämmerer takes a closer look at the topic for us.

Case Studies: How yoga helped riders to become better horse people

Brigitte has ridden all her life. She runs a riding school, she also teaches herself and regularly rides many of her school horses. Many would consider her a very good rider (even though not necessarily she herself).  However, when she saw herself on horseback in a video after a long time of “just riding”, she was shocked: “My back is totally rounded, it looks terrible!”

Brigitte also started yoga last year, but for other reasons : To “calm down” – and because of her regular back pain. When she recently saw a riding video of herself again, she was relieved: the rounded shoulders were gone, she was sitting upright, stable and swinging loosely on the horse again, exactly as she would like it for her students.

However, her feeling had changed long before that visual proof: “I can straighten up much better, I am much freer in my chest and often feel like I am glued to the saddle and my horse even on one with a large trot.” Overall, she felt also more open, more relaxed, happier – and, most astonishingly, “hasn’t had a single day of back pain since her first yoga class”. What had happened there …?

Dorothy used to ride advanced dressage exercises with her mare, but for some time now and having had knee surgery, she’d had trouble riding her even along the fence of the arena. Nothing had been going the way it used to. “I had the feeling that she always pulled in on the left, and the more I worked against it, the worse it got. It was so frustrating.” Although she felt that something was off, she didn’t know how to help herself and her horse. With each ride, the frustration and paralyzing feeling of not being in control of her own body grew.

At some point, a stable colleague recommended a yoga class especially for riders. The exercises helped her to recognize which movements were difficult for her, which side is her own weaker side, and she learned to work with individual muscles in a more precise manner. On days when Dorothy felt focussed and balanced enough, she was soon able to ride her mare on a straight line again. In addition to the new body awareness, she has calmed down and she has realized that her body needs professional help to find balance again. A visit to the chiropractor diagnosed a very clear pelvic misalignment, which she is now slowly compensating for with the help of yoga exercises. She now has more fun with her horse weekly, the old lightness returns and with it the relief that the body can get used to strange things, but also can unlearn them again. And she had the exciting realization that she was able to help herself to a large extent.

Katharina is a dedicated, ambitious type of horsewoman and only wants the best for her horse. She trained her gelding herself and both are very well rehearsed. But like every horse-rider pair, these two had come up against limits, too. Katharina had often felt stressed and has had some physical blockages that kept getting in her way. For example, she hadn’t been able to breathe deeply, it felt like something was blocking her. Also, the circles she rode were rounder on one hand than on the other. The gallop they had completely excluded at first because her gelding hadn’t found his balance. And she hadn’t been able to touch him directly on the head for a while, but she had accepted that as a peculiarity of her horse. One day when she heard about a yoga class for riders, she decided to try again. She had attended a yoga class a few years ago, but decided that she was “just too inflexible” and “therefore not suitable for yoga”.

The original six-week course was repeatedly extended and became a permanent appointment for Katharina. She noticed that she was less dominated by the stress that she felt and that she felt more in her body. Between classes, she soon found more and more opportunities to incorporate yoga exercises into her everyday life. Success has been motivating her: Her breathing has become much deeper and her entire body has become more relaxed, calmer. Her circles are now even on both sides, because Katharina has learned to use her right leg as flexibly as her left. And the two are making great progress in the gallop as well. Not because Katharina is ambitiously dedicated to this goal, but because they both enjoy it. And: After a yoga lesson on “mindful touch”, she can now touch her gelding’s head again. She says that yoga has changed the relationship between her and her horse on all kinds of levels.

The riders described above do exist, they only have different names. They have in common that none of them have blamed their horse for the problems, which is great news for them! And that they have all learned to use yoga to change the situation for themselves and their horse for the better.

What is this “yoga thing” and how can it work so extensively?

It is so difficult for us riders to find the quietness in the mind, the presence and the physical relaxation in takes to be as equally soft, agile and strong in the saddle as we want to be. “Being human” all the time is a versatile and demanding task and becoming present and the best possible riders for our horses basically at the push of a button, is not that easy. 

On a physical level, the cause of almost all typical problems with the rider’s seat is stiff hips and low body poise. In the opinion of many trainers, the most important skill of a rider is to be able to switch on and off, tense and let go, individual muscles – but also the mind.                                      

And all of that is exactly what we practice in yoga. Yoga is a holistic philosophy that is over 2,000 years old. The physical exercises are just the tip of the iceberg. Rather, yoga wants no less than to connect body, mind and soul.

In yoga we become aware of our patterns and get the chance to create new, more useful ones. Head and body can get used to almost everything we continue to ask for, but can also unlearn it. In the controlled environment of the yoga mat we notice that we are in charge of our inner and outer posture. Little by little we learn to use our thoughts and our bodies more consciously and effectively – in everyday life and also around our horses.

We move and strengthen individual parts of the body, learn to target them and get out of our thinking mind. This quickly creates a better feel for our body – and its limits. Almost anyone who has tried yoga knows: After just a few yoga exercises, we often feel calmer and more centered. And in the long term, we become more agile and vigorous, tend to promote more healthy movement patterns and can apply the experience from yoga classes in everyday life aswell as in connection with our horses.

And that is exactly the “magical” experience that Brigitte, Dorothy and Katharina have had and continue to have. And which helps them to gradually become better and better people for their horses. No matter what was yesterday.

Which yoga exercises are particularly suitable for riders?

Almost every yoga exercise that we practice correctly and in alignment with our physical and emotional state can promote hip mobility, core stability and calmness in the head, and therefore: further develop the riding seat. Of course, the exercises have different focuses. 

I recommend doing the following postures as a small series. Everything helps and has a holistic positive effect on the body and mind. Of course, individual exercises can also be used to reach different goals.

We pick the following objectives:

A: Becoming more relaxed

B: Sitting straight in turns (no sinking in the waist, no excessive rotation)

C: Sitting upright and soft (no rounded back, but also no excessive tilting of the pelvis, safe sitting out at a trot)

D: Finding quiet, long legs

Important: Perform each exercise slowly and consciously, in the rhythm of your own breathing. If an exercise causes pain, stop doing it! Yoga can be exhausting, but it should never hurt. If in doubt, ask your doctor before trying any exercise. And: If you need a break, take it. Always.

1. Seated breathing exercise

Aim: deepening of breathing, straightening of the spine and pelvis (A, C, D)

Find a comfortable seat. Allow your pelvis to find a neutral position. Sitting on a book, a folded blanket, etc. can help here. 

Relax your shoulders, take your time to arrive. 

Then imagine three balloons in your torso: one in your lower abdomen, one in your upper abdomen and one in your chest. Imagine their color and exact size. Inhale and first fill the lower balloon, then the middle, then the upper balloon with air. Exhale and empty the lower balloon first, then the middle and finally the upper balloon. Take 5-7 deep breaths like this and observe how the upper body widens in all directions. Let go of the picture and feel it.

x2. Cat-cow movement

Aim: Mobilizing the spine, promoting the connection of breath and movement (A)

Come to all fours. Inhale and hollow your back. To do this, tilt the pelvis forward, the head follows along. Exhale and tilt the pelvis backwards (up), pull the navel upwards towards the spine and round the entire back, like a scared cat. Start every movement with the conscious movement of the pelvis. Repeat a few times in the natural breathing rhythm.

2a. Variant for more strength and length

Aim: promoting length in the body, strength in the middle of the body, mobility of the spine (B, C, D)

On all fours, raise your left hand, stretch your arm forward. If you can, also  raise your right leg, stretch your leg and flex your toes like you are pressing the foot on a wall behind you. Inhale a little more, and then exhale and lead your knees and elbows under your body to meet and round your back. Repeat, getting a little longer with each inhalation and with each exhalation pulling the belly button upwards towards the spine. Feel the movement of your pelvis. Change of sides.

2b. Variant for “softer” hands

Aim: stretching and stimulating the wrists, promoting communication via the reins, opening the shoulders (A, C)

On all fours, carefully turn your right hand outwards and all the way back, so that your wrist crease is parallel to the front of your mat (if you have one). Take small, then larger circles around your wrist with your upper body. Switch sides. Then repeat the exercise with both wrists. At the end keep both wrists twisted and buttocks towards your heels as far as you can. Stay here and breathe.

2c. Variant for the hips

Aim: More flexibility in the hip joints, stretching the lateral abdominal muscles (B, C, D)

On all fours, inhale and lift your right knee up to the side, like a peeing dog. Exhale and lower it, hovering briefly over the floor. Inhale again and lift your leg. At least 7-10 repetitions, then switch sides.

3. Crescent Pose

Aim: stretching and strengthening the hip flexors and anterior thigh muscles, the abdominal muscles and the back, opening the shoulders (B, C, D)

Take a deep lunge, your right foot is in front. Lower your left knee to the floor, put your fingertips on the floor, lengthen your torso. Press your feet down in the floor, so that you can lift your hands up and stretch the arms towards the sky. Turn your pinky fingers towards each other. Inhale and mentally pull the inner foot and the back knee together, so that your pelvis lifts up a little higher. Exhale and sink deeper into the front knee and lean back a little more if possible. Repeat these movements a few times following the rhythm of your breath, then stay low. The pelvis points forward, the inside of the left thigh wants topulls up. Find the point between too much and not enough stretch. Get out of the posture, go through the cat-cow movement (see above) and change sides.

4. Chair Pose

Aim: Strengthening the entire middle of the body, all leg muscles and joints, opening the shoulder joints, “power pose” (A, B, C, D)

Stand upright, feet hip-width apart. Extend your arms forward. Have your palms face each other, your shoulders remain relaxed and in. Bend your knees now and move your pelvis back as if you were sitting down on a chair. Breathe calmly and evenly, stay as relaxed as possible. Keep your body strong and softly pull the navel towards the spine with each exhale. Make sure your heels are on the floor, and your back is almost straight. For extra strength, make fists with your hands. If possible, pull your arms over your head. After a few breaths, push into your feet and straighten up with a flat back.

5. Wide-legged forward fold

Aim: stretching the back of the legs / inside / outside, straightening the upper body, calming the nervous system (A, C, D)

Take a wide stance. Put your hands on your hips, and have your elbows pull back slightly. Keep your back straight. Bend your knees slightly, exhale and lean forward. Let go of the head and neck, hands on the ground. Find a comfortable stretch in the thighs by bending the knees as much as it takes for you to feel good here.

5a. Variation with rotation

Aim: Stabilization of the pelvis, stretching the sides of the body, opening the shoulder (B, C, D)

From the wide-legged forward fold, but your left hand under your face, straighten your back. Extend your right arm up. Keep pelvis straight and distribute weight on both legs, bend one or both if necessary. Change of sides after a few breaths.

 

6. Side plank variation

Aim: stretching and strengthening the lateral abdominal muscles, strengthening the shoulder (B, C)

Lie on the side. With one elbow placed under your shoulder, press your forearm down into the floor. Bend your knees. Inhale, move your top arm forward and over your head. Exhale and move your arm back to your side, lowering the pelvis slightly. Inhale and lift your arm, move it forward and over your head, lifting your pelvis, exhale and lower back down, etc. The bottom shoulder remains active and shouldn’t collapse. 7-10 repetitions, then switch sides.

For a greater challenge: Stretch your legs, now lift your knees off the mat, place the outer edge of your feet on the floor and repeat the exercise.

7. Locust pose with arm variation

Aim: Strengthening the back and shoulders, stretching the shoulders, hip flexors and front thighs (C, D)

Lie on your belly. Put your arms in a “cactus position”: shoulders and elbows  lined up, elbows bent, forearms pointing forward. Inhale and lift your head, sternum and arms, turn your thumbs up. Hold here and then exhale, stretch your arms forward. Inhale and pull shoulder blades towards each other. Exhale and stretch. Repeat a few times. Then lower your upper body down, put your hands under your forehead and wiggle your pelvis to remove any tension. Two more times. If your lower back is okay, raise your legs as well. Lie down and relax briefly after each run.

8. Piriformis Stretch

Aim: More mobility in the pelvis, loosening solid structures, also psychologically (A, C, D)

Lie on your back. Rest your feet just behind your butt. The spine is in its natural shape, the lower back lifting slightly off the floor (if necessary, tilt the pelvis gently forward). Place your right ankle over your left thigh, flex your feet. Here you should feel a stretch around the right side of your pelvis. If necessary, gently push the right thigh away with your hand. Hold and breathe (for at least 30 seconds). Emphasize the exhalation and extend it conciously. Change sides. At the end pull both knees toward you and swing gently back and forth on your back a few times.

9. Alternate nostril breathing

Aim: deepening of breathing (immediate calming of the nervous system, reduction of stress), balancing the left and right hemispheres of the brain and body (A, B, C, D)

Find an upright, comfortable seat (see above). Raise your right hand, folding your index and middle finger in. Move your right hand to your nose, the left one gets to rest on your thigh or wherever it feels right. Place your thumb on the right nostril and your ring finger on the left. Exhale, close with the ring finger on the left and inhale on the right. Close with both fingers, hold your breath briefly, then open on the left and exhale, keep closed on the right.

Breathe in on the left, close. Hold your breath. Exhale through the right nostril. Inhale through the right side, close, hold. Exhale through the left, etc. Repeat for a few minutes while breathing. End with an exhalation through the right nostril. Feel the change for a moment before moving back into your day.